Discussions on LinkedIn often revolve around public speaking. This one in particular caught my eye. It was posted in the Public Speaking Network group and is about whether or not it’s OK to put your hands on your hips.
The gist of the question was this: Is it wrong for speakers to place their hands on their hips? I believe it's a negative gesture and perhaps somewhat condescending. Any thoughts?
Answers ranged from "yes, it's the worst thing you can do" to "who cares where you put your hands."
As a presentation/facilitation skills trainer & coach, I get questions about gestures all the time.
The answer is not so much what's "right," but what's natural for the speaker. Manufactured gestures and stances look phony. Audiences don't want phony. They want real.
But how to become comfortable enough so that the real you comes out?
The solution is to engage your listeners in a thoughtful two-way conversation. Look them in the eyes. Look for their reactions. Respond accordingly. Soon enough you won't be thinking about the placement of your hands, you'll be thinking about the conversation.
All that said, there are times when certain gestures can convey the wrong thing. Hands on hips is one of those, so is hands in pockets. But you need to start with engagement, which will provide you with awareness so that you'll know instinctively what's appropriate and how to adapt to any given situation.
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Greg Owen-Boger has been with Turpin Communication since 1995, first as a cameraman, then instructor, account manager, and now vice president. Schooled in management and the performing arts, Greg brings a diverse set of skills and experiences to the organization. Greg is one of Turpin’s facilitators and coaches. When he’s not with clients, he manages the day-to-day operations of the company. Greg is an active member of the Association for Talent Development (ATD) and was the 2015 President of ATD, Chicagoland Chapter. He is a popular speaker, frequent blogger, and the co-author of the book The Orderly Conversation: Business Presentations Redefined. His latest book, also co-authored by Dale Ludwig, launched in 2017 and is entitled Effective SMEs: A Trainer’s Guide for Helping Subject Matter Experts Facilitate Learning.